Welcome everybody. I am so excited to be welcoming Kristy Cooper here, the amazing lady who had the vision to put PyLadies anytime I'm bring it to the world from nothing and she's changed all of our lives. So first and foremost, I want to say what an honor it is to have you and to be on this platform with you and to represent and discuss the subject of thriving and success. And what does it actually mean and what will it take? And out in the world, often we think of thriving in forms of lots of money.
Possessions, looks, we have all this outer aspect that we think is what represents it. And yet it is something very, very different. And I know right now plot is any time is a landmark and any PyLadies industry in the world, everybody knows Polaris anytime. So it is indeed a thriving business. But when it started, I don't even think you had a clue that it was, did we
Right? Um, you know, I would love to say it was all me and it wasn't. So I had two business partners at one was a friend of a friend, if you will. And um, Ted and John, I like to call them, but that's their names and they, um, are really quite genius. And Ted and I had talked about ways that I could leverage my time and ways that I could, you know, I love teaching, I'm passionate and I want to, um, benefit myself and my clients and prove to the world, you know, just in my personal practice, that's how I always was and that's what he knew. But he always wondered why I hadn't done more. Why hadn't I made a product?
Why hadn't I, um, endorsed someone else's? And that wasn't me. Um, this of course, the bit of, I know you talk so much about your ideal client and your living into your own vision. I can't say that I had a full vision other than when the idea was bantered around by Ted and John. And I said, no, I'm not your Gal. Um, you know, you've got to pick someone who's been here longer, has a history, et Cetera, more qualified. And, and then I, I saw just a couple of different versions of what was out there at that time. This is 2009, eight actually. So I had seen now on youtube and other things where [inaudible] was being represented and it wasn't what I knew.
So by now I, I know these two well enough that I could get behind this idea and I, I just felt like,
We're going to let it speak for itself. You know, we're not going to shout from the rooftops other than to let each person who I knew by then with my experience, uh, that if you show good plots or if you, someone's gonna resonate with their, with their teacher, and if all you do is show that and give it an option for people who can't get to New York or la or wherever it is I'm doing service that up could be proud of. So it just felt like green light, green light, green light for a little while. And when did the green lights stop? Ah, on about six months in, I was overwhelmed, not because we were so flourishing, but because I was in over my head. I taught [inaudible] seven, eight hours a day and now I have to learn how to email more than my mom and I had to learn how computers work and I had to start thinking about the impact I was actually making. I had to start thinking about who would be willing to listen to me and how would I create that case. It was just overwhelming, but that that happened kind of quick and [inaudible].
And it's just not so. So how do you deal, how did you deal with being overwhelmed and how do you deal with mass? Because I know every time you do something, not new, it will be messy.
But the endurance of the dapping mattered. It matters most. So. So how do I deal with it is I remind myself to try and adapt and then, um, sometimes it's just messy. Sometimes I'm messy. Sometimes. Um, I, how do I deal with it changes how I deal with it has to change because the business changes every day for me. Yeah. I'm not kidding, like 10 years in gratefully again that I really feel like it's a whole new business. Even when I learned in the beginning, now doesn't, it's almost irrelevant because now it's gotta be collaborating with this, that, or the other versions of the world. And so it's just, it's endurance adaptation. How do I deal with it? I dance that, that's the end. That's the end result. Actually. I dance you Dennis.
And a lot in the living room. That's it. Yeah. Yeah.
We are probably not because it's not be after learning the base skill lines, there's not much more to do. And I say this all due respect to Starbucks by the way. I do like my coffee. Um, so it's interesting that growth is uncomfortable. Giving birth is uncomfortable and there's an illusion, you know, you get married and then you live happily ever after. No. Now you have to actually figure out how to get along with another person.
And I think this applies across the boards to every aspect of our lives. Um, so you, you are, your formula is dancing. I like that cause I'm a dancer too. I, you know,
But it turns out I don't get to do Polonius is so I have to move and that's it. That, that that's it. I need to stick with the point of ever getting in this business and for me, dancing releases it. I'm not a trained, I just let it go and then I can get back to thinking again. Very, very cool.
And to be honest, we are all multiple personalities and multiple types of people. And you have shared that although you often have to do public speaking or talking on camera, you're not actually comfortable in this manner, in this medium I should say. So when you have to deal with something like the Utah [inaudible], please delete. Um, is there, how do you prepare yourself or what do you do inside?
I didn't know any of this. I couldn't plan any of them this, but I do know what my vision has. I do know what I intend and I so that I've, when I can settle back into that, even if I don't know where it's going to go, I can sit down and I can talk to me and I can, I'm calmer now cause you asked me that question. It's, it's, it's a, and it pertains to all facets of this. My business. When I had a client who knew more than me or, or so I thought, cause I was a newer teacher and they had been a student for longer. All of that would happen and then I would remember, I don't have to know everything. I have a vision. I'm going to help you. I know what I intend. If we're in agreement that you want to come here, I'm talking about the client now, then we're good.
We'll have a good relationship. Things will happen and we'll see what happens in the next. Isn't that an amazing skill to tap into that? I mean I can totally relate to it. I've had my own demons and my own inner talk and it always boils down.
It always, always boils down to you who you are bringing yourself to the table and it makes it simple. Yeah, it's amazing. It's much easier for me to talk about, say you were going or anyone that comes through and has to be on Belarus anytime, because that's what I say. You just be, you do your thing, you know? However, I have to say, it's so easy for me to see that that's what it is, but the more that you can let someone provide a place, and this is true for myself, the more I can provide a place or a sanctuary or a moment as it often is, where I feel like I can just settle back into this is what I'm doing, this is who I am, got this far, you know? I know. I mean well and be me. It tends to go better than if I try to be anything but that, so it's just easier to see it on someone else. I think that's a, also a skills to help someone else know that really all you have to do is be yourself. That's fabulous. So I want to pick your brains a little bit more because in the course we went into a lot of exploration, especially in the business section on exploring different ways that you can take your business or your work into another level, how to be creative, how to jump onto opportunities, which obviously you very early on you saw an opportunity and it aligned with you. So you said yes.
And uncovering this, stepping into something
So for me in the process of moving, I can, I have these what I think are great thoughts at the moment, whether they turn into anything or not, I write them down. It sometimes it's a notebook paper or a post it note, but I do have that painting that I just set on the floor when I get ready to move when I have a big problem. This is very interesting because I have a different
Is it fascinating that we have different time zones that our biology clicks? Actually I, you would know, but I can't, I don't know. But I do know that this is over the years I've learned, I have that time that I know my brain is dumping and I need to move first. I always have little early morning, I get up, I have to move my body and then I just dump and dump and um, and then I look back and then I start to weed through, look for what's gold,
You of course have a lot of people you are working with. I work for myself so I don't have as much of, but when I, I have, I, you triggered me to realize it. I, when I'm kind of wonder if my thoughts and my creativity's, my older two, I'm being influenced by lots of other people's opinions. And I say that because I do a lot of courses and the in courses, obviously you're being pressured to absorb information from the perspective of the person who's giving it to you. And I usually have to put myself in the woods, in my imagination with nobody around me and go, do I really care? [inaudible] go back to bed. I'm just going to dance freely. Yeah. Or here and then we're not, if I say yes, I go, okay, that's me. And if I, if I don't care if I go, actually I couldn't care less if I have a rolls Royce or not. I'll know. Okay.
That's not important to me. Isn't that fascinating?
That is so cool.
Cause I think the alliance life
So I just think it's really, really important. What you said that it's, it's, yeah,
But if that's what makes me feel alive, but sometimes I don't want to dance if I don't feel alive, there's no point. If I can't help in that process of my own progress, hopefully others as well. There's no point. So then what? And usually I get myself to the next step. I love it. I just love it. Um, so
What would you want people to know would be up on a billboard as from your life wisdom and your own journey, what would you like to share and let them know to help them do well or do benefit from your knowledge? As a huge question. I know that the, we have billboards that I'm a highway with that I was just saying
Get a basis from there. Pull out these teachers. Right. We know if there's a stable foundation, you can move freely otherwise. So that's sort of the the same message I would give. Don't take yourself so seriously and, and know that if you, if you commit to something like finish it and then do whatever you want and then commit to the next step of it. So it's a little bit of not feeling like you have to know it all.
Do it all, have it all behind you in your back pocket, like toolboxes grow. They don't just, well, you can add to the tool box. You don't have to have the big one right away and, and that's all. I just think, take your time. Don't take it too seriously. Finish what you start. Finish what you start and you'll be a lot stronger.
I could have used that advice when I was younger too. Yeah.